Have you ever called a woman 'beautiful', 'attractive', 'hot', 'sexy', 'pretty', 'lovely' or 'good-looking'? Have you ever thought about why you would use one word over another when describing her? We usually toss these words around as if they're interchangeable, but if you really want to understand the role of beauty in your life it's important to start with a few key definitions.
'Pretty' and 'good-looking' refer only to a person's physical appearance. This is an important distinction to make, because people can be 'good-looking' without having any other good quality to speak of. It says nothing about their character. It also says nothing about how hot they are, or your sexual attraction to them. You can say that your six year old niece is 'pretty', or admit that a certain male movie star is 'good-looking' without feeling any attraction to them.
'Attractive' and 'hot' refer only to our personal feelings about a person. If someone has certain physical qualities that we like we call them hot, and if they seem to have certain personal qualities we like we call them attractive. But neither attractiveness nor hotness requires us to find someone beautiful or sexy, nor do they require us to find them pretty or particularly good-looking. We can easily be attracted to a plain woman who is kind or be turned off by a hottie who isn't.
'Beautiful' refers to our own personal values that we see in a person. When you call someone beautiful it's because their appearance reminds you of qualities that you admire in a person, whether they actually possess those virtues or not. A tall man might exude maturity or a long-legged lady might appear graceful even though either may be neither.
'Sexy' refers to a person who exhibits real sexuality. She may not be having sex with you, but you KNOW she's having sex with SOMEONE. A sexy woman isn't necessarily the 'hottest' one around, as any man who has a sexy wife or girlfriend may reluctantly affirm - she may never be a Victoria's Secret model, but she certainly rocks your world. And to you, she is the sexiest woman alive.
'Lovely', ah lovely. With 'love' at its root 'lovely' is the culmination of everything. It is the soul and spirit, together, it is the very real character behind the looks, it is a woman's sexiness mixed with her morality, her character and her characteristics. It is the highest accolade, the pinnacle of body and mind. There's probably nothing more endearing, more alluring, more heart-melting, more sexy, and more 'lovely' than the smile of the woman you love, and when you look at her, you see her as 'beautiful' whether she is classically 'pretty' or not.
Today all these words are used interchangeably and we've lost much of our ability to know the huge difference between 'pretty' and 'lovely'. The difference is: real values, real love, real life and real sex. So think about these definitions the next time you find yourself drawn to a woman. Are you responding to her appearance only? Does she merely LOOK like she's the one for you, or IS she the one for you?