Fantasy is very important to our health and spiritual well-being. Unfortunately, our culture does not value the human mind and actively discourages independent thought at every turn, including personal fantasies. Therefore very few people ever bother to develop a personal philosophy of their own. Most tend to follow the philosophies of others. Few develop private fantasies for the same reason, accepting the fantasies of others through literature, movies, or porn. Both failures are tragic because thinking is the only way for you to discover truth, and fantasy is the only way for you to discover values. Values are defined as the things in life that are worth striving for and having. And since you are the only one who knows what you like and love, only you can discover your values. Without knowing what your values are how can you make the choices in life that are necessary to achieve them? You would be like a robot sent into a department store with a mechanical grabbing arm that is not given any programming instructions. Without knowing your values the chances of coming out of the store of life with what you want are almost zero. So program yourself. Reject repetitive, stale sex and violence fantasies offered by the media. Let your own peronal thoughts, feelings, emotions, and values into your fantasies. If you value intelligence and romance then fantasize about them. Your health, happiness, and future depend on it.