Lookism, not sexism, is the biggest problem facing women today.
Real sexism - keeping women down simply because they are women - ended in countries like England and America about a century ago when women were freed to live on the same terms as men. Since then women have shown their true colours and have earned equality on almost every level. Yet today many politically ambitious feminists re-task sexism to mean images of sexy women in the media and blame it for all our current problems. They tell us that failure to live up to media standards of beauty causes crippling self-esteem issues in girls that lead to lower ambition and even self-abuse in women. They also claim media "sexism" gives boys unrealistic expectations about what real women should look like which later leads to men harassing, abusing and assaulting women.
In reality it's not sexism but lookism that causes these things. Young girls all expect to be beautiful princesses when they're older so the attacks on their self-esteem come much sooner and from a source much closer to them than the media. I'm talking about young girls whose parents and loved ones criticise them for not being beautiful enough or who praise them too much for simply being beautiful. Most girls experience years of this brainwashing from family and friends before they are old enough to have self-esteem issues, long before they know if they'll be a great beauty or not, which means long before they begin to compare themselves to models and movie stars in the media.
Does the fact that little girls are routinely judged by and treated differently according to their looks mean beauty is bad? Absolutely not! Female beauty is one of the glories of mankind, it creates children, inspires romance in men, and empowers women economically, socially, politically. Fighting lookism is not about fighting beauty. It's about recognizing that beauty is an image only, a wonderful image that represents but does not replace real human values. Beauty reminds us of all the things we hope to find in a real person one day. As children we instinctively assume beautiful people possess more admirable qualities of character and greater intellectual and physical abilities than uglier people. As adults we learn this isn't true. Yet due to the lure and power of beauty we tend to ignore the people who do possess admirable qualities. This is lookism.
Lookism, not sexism, warps young boys too. Most parents completely fail to teach their sons the real purpose of female beauty which is to inspire them to be the best they can be, to make art, to excel at sports, etc. not to make them ignore real women in favor of scoring a supermodel one day. Both boys and girls need to be taught that personal character and values are what makes a person attractive in a lasting way to the opposite sex.
Physical beauty has great power and a grand purpose in the scheme of things. But because of it we often miss many golden opportunities for deeply meaningful relationships. Fighting lookism is really about freeing the only thing in human life grander and more powerful than beauty.
Fighting lookism is about love.