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R.I.P Amаndа Tоdd
*A few weeks before her death, Amanda posted a youtube video describing her ordeal. Watch it here:
October 14, 2012 - Do you know who Amаndа Tоdd is? You probably don't, and yet the reason she's in the news is the very same reason you're at this site: female beauty and sexuality. So pay attention. Please.
Amanda was a 15-year-old Canadian girl who, along with some friends, got involved in webcam socializing in order to 'meet people'. A man she met during one of these adventures flattered her, complimented her, and cajoled her into stripping for him on the webcam. A bit of harmless teenage fun, really. Except that this man was able to record her image and use it to blackmail her. He threatened to publicly shame her, to vilify her and humilate her. He was the definition of a stalker - he knew where she lived, what her family's names were, everything.
She changed schools, made new 'friends'. Her stalker followed her. He posted a photo of her breasts as his facebook profile picture, and forward topless pictures of her to "everyone" (her words).
That's when the real attacks began. Her circle of acquaintances jumped at the chance to make her life a living hell for having had topless photos taken of herself. What followed was many months if not years of abuse, ridicule, and even physical assault that left Amanda so emotionally damaged that she attempted suicide by drinking bleach. She was saved then, but her spiral into depression was too steep to stop. Two days ago she killed herself in her parents' home.
Although memorial pages have sprung up on facebook and elsewhere, her attackers haven't let her death stop them. Cruel taunts and jokes are still being made on these sites by the people who ghoulishly delight in her death. It's like something out of a horror movie. Only it's all too real. And the worst of it is, no one is talking about what this tragedy is really about.
Bullying, they're calling it. Bullshit, I say.
If this isn't a painfully clear, writ-large in neon letters example of hatred of beauty and female sexuality, I don't know what is. This girl was not abused, humiliated, shamed, and assaulted out of the clear blue sky - the whole sordid, disgusting mess began with photos of her naked breasts.
Breasts. Her breasts. For having committed the 'crime' of showing them to some unscrupulous bastard who decided to ruin her life, she paid the ultimate price.
No one is saying this, of course. No one is talking about whether it was a group of boys or girls who savaged her (but I'm assuming it's girls, since women are the first ones to attack each other as 'sluts'). No one is bringing up the fact that no boy is ever 'bullied to death' over his sexual escapades. No one is mentioning how outrageously evil it is to attack a young woman for going topless. No one is screaming that this hatred of women, this societally-sanctioned hysteria against any whisper of female sexuality has simply got to stop or else more young girls are going to die. There are no feminists out there protesting or pleading with their young sisters to stop attacking their fellow women. There is no one making a comparison to the Taliban and how they, too, murder women for showing skin. No one is saying anything except the same, boring old platitudes about how online 'bullying' is a serious problem.
It's a serious problem, alright - especially when you don't even identify what the real problem is. It isn't bullying. It's black, ugly, slimy hatred of beauty, of women, of their sexuality, and of anything pure and simple and good.
You don't have to know who Amаndа Tоdd was. In some ways, she's all of us. She is every woman who was ever attacked, abducted, abused, or assaulted. She's every woman ever made the butt of a joke, or called a slut, or pelted with stones, or whipped, or beaten, or killed. She's every teacher ever fired for having posed nude, she's every passenger kicked off a plane for having a top that was too low cut, every r4pе victim accused of asking for it by wearing a sexy skirt. Shе's Mаrіlyn, she's Annа Nіcоlе, she's every innocently sexual woman ever seized upon and destroyed by those whose dark souls can't allow something so beautiful and meaningful to live.
And she's every woman on this site, whose beauty and sexuality you enjoy and seek out and need. Defend her. Defend her right to be a respected, admired and valuable human being. Protect her against all those who would call her the devil and blame her for every evil, all the while salivating while they gaze at her lustfully. It may be too late for Amаndа Tоdd, but there are many, many more of her out there that need us now more than ever.
